Tuesday, December 15, 2009

There is no easy way to put this into words but we have decided not to continue with our adoption of sweet little A. During an international adoption process there are many steps during which we recieve information on the child we are adopting. We recently recieved information on this little girl that was very sad. She has been through some very difficult things and is going to need a lot of help to heal. We had some long conversations with our social worker and a therapist to help us understand what could be involved. After struggling and praying for clarity we have decided that our very busy family with 4 children may not be the right family for this sweet little girl. She will require a great deal of time and energy soley focused on her and that would be very difficult for us as we have a busy daughter in college and 3 kids still living at home that also require a great deal from us already.

It has been one of the saddest, most difficult things that we have ever gone through but we had to close our file. We are praying that she will go to the perfect family-maybe one with no other kids, to focus only on her and get her the help and healing she will need. The good thing is she now has lots of people praying for her and she is in the CWA system so she will definietly get the perfect family for her. They are working on it already. She did not know about us yet so I am relieved and thankful for that.

I am praying hard for sweet little A. and will always be sad about it but God has other plans for us both. It makes me so very grateful that God has brought us Tess. I will go into the holidays humbled and full of love and gratitude for my 4 beautiful children and my LOVING husband, who has been amazing through all this. Please keep us in your prayers as we all try to move through this loss and especially pray for sweet A. that God keep his hands on her and move A. forward into a life of love and healing with the perfect family for her.



3 comments:

Heidi said...

Wow, I am sure that was a very difficult decision and my heart goes out to you and your family. It certainly sounds like you made the right decision but I understand your feelings of loss and you all will be in my prayers.

Heidi

David said...

We're so sorry. Our hearts are breaking for you! Gut-wrenching as I'm sure it was, you made the right decision as it wouldn't be right to sacrifice the needs of your entire family. God bless!

The Howletts

Anonymous said...

Praying for everyone here - what a difficult decision this must have been. May you feel the comfort of the Lord as you walk this part of the journey -